Should I stay? Or should I break… my partners face…

HEY ALL!! Omg.. its been like… a MILLION weeks since my last post. I’ll just give you guys a quick update on my HAPPENINGS! I’m currently hooked on the show REVENGE! So much so that I want to write a “guys” version, where the guy goes around and beats up all the people who used to bully him… but that is going to have to wait for today.

So recently, being the awesome “giver of advise” that I am, I was asked recently some advise when it came to partners, namely what should be done if you find yourself fighting with your partner too much. Or your partner is doing your head in. Or if you feel like you want to constantly strangle your partner until he or she cries tears of blood mixed tears. (wow.. way too graphic).

ANYWAY.. yes… partners. Now the first step is to (attempt to) remove all emotion from your thoughts. Yes I know, easily said than done. But let me tell you what happens if you don’t.

You are upset. You approach your partner and yell words WAY out of context. You cool off, then realise you didn’t mean what you said. Sadface. You go to your partner and say you or sorry. Your partner is also sorry. You both apologise, although you don’t know why (except for being in the heat of the moment). Problem is you haven’t established anything besides the fact you are a both SLAVES to your emotions, and you let the short-term emotion of feeling good, outweigh the overwhelming long-tem pain you are sure to endure for not addressing your problems NOW.

Of course, there is always option two.

The other option is to take a deep breath. Despite being so ANGRY and FURIOUS, and even though you want to break your partner’s face. The FIRST thing you need to do is chill the fuck out. Why? Because if you don’t, you will make a mistake. So remind yourself of that.

Next, you LOGICALLY think of why you are so angry at your partner. You think about it with as little emotion as possible, but at the same time understand what is making you angry (as oppose to focusing on HOW angry you are, find out WHY).

What you will usually find is that the INITIAL reason why you are angry, is the tip of the iceberg. The real reason you are angry is the UNDERLYING result of certain actions. So you may only look at the action, for example, your partner is not telling you something. It may be something personal, but it hurts you. If you look at this objectively, this doesnt SEEM like such a big deal. Which makes you ask yourself ‘WHY am I so freaking angry?!’

Well, the reason lies in the UNDERLYING result of your partner not telling you something. Keeping closed up MAY be something your partner does regularly. You might be a very open person who wants to share your feelings and talk about problems. Your partner may be so used to dealing with things independently, and he or she finds it difficult to share things that are negative or embarrassing.

You see, when we are passionately angry, that is probably a good thing because it shows YOU still care about the relationship. The problem is, this starts to fade away, and if you don’t address your problems SOONER, you will find yourself in a relationship you both don’t want to be in.

You see, an awesome relationship stems from UNDERSTANDING not only your partner, but YOURSELF. I will be the first to admit that I do not truly know myself at times. I think that is normal… to feel a loss of control at times. But that just shows me I am LIVING life, and that I still CARE, which is a good thing. At the same time, I think what gets me through is knowing that relationships are about UNDERSTANDING both your partner and yourself at an intimate level.

What I mean but knowing your PARTNER is knowing what he or she demands in a partner. An important thing to realise is that NEITHER of you are infallible. We all make mistakes. Sometimes we can ask things of out partner that are unreasonable, but our partner will do it because they either CARE so much for us or are too DEPENDENT and are unable to say to and risk losing the relaitonship. I told an ex of mine NOT to see one of her guy friends, and looking back at that, I can see that was a mistake. But she listened to me anyway because that is how much she loved me. That didn’t make me right though. What she should have told me is where to go, but she didn’t. She let me get away with it, and that brings me to my next point – knowing yourself.

What I mean by knowing YOURSELF is knowing what YOU want in a relationship. Sounds easy, but it isn’t at times. Because you may already be in a relationship, and you may already have a connection. Therefore you have already built a dependency on that person. And like most dependencies, they are quite difficult to break.

For example, there are people out there addicted to COCAINE or some other drug. Now if you ask them, no doubt they will tell you how much they LOVE COCAINE. But they don’t. Just because someone is ADDICTED to something or DEPENDENT on something, that doesn’t mean they are in LOVE. And the same goes with a relationship.

You can argue until you are black and blue how much you LOVE someone, but TRUE love, in my humble opinion is not a dependency. Rather, a dependency through independence. It is where you CAN be independent from your partner. It is where you do not NEED your partner. Where you can survive on your own without their tender touch or warm guidance to steer you into the right direction. HOWEVER, you WANT them. You want them something ridiculous because they make you something EVERYONE strives for… They make you a BETTER person.

They give you that confidence when you lack it. They give you a laugh when you truly need it. They lend you an ear when you need to be truly heard. They care unconditionally, and although you don’t need them; You want them. It is WANT, that I deem to be love. In my books, love is not a necessity. It’s a want. A ‘want’ that rivals the very definition of necessity BUT it isn’t necessity. Because necessity or need IMPLIES that you cannot live with out them due to LACK OF CHOICE.

I NEED food, or I die of starvation. I NEED oxygen, or a suffocate. I NEED sleep or I can’t play Diablo 3. But I do not NEED love, because that implies I would die without it. However, there is nothing I WANT more in this world that unyielding love. A love as I define it, through WANT AND DESIRE, not NEED AND DESPERATION.

Now we all have our own little definitions of that love is to us, and by all means leave your comments (if you dare), even FUNNY ones. Doubt you will though, pussies

In any case, I hope this little message gets through to that person out there I’m directing it at. Hope this little blog acts as a compass, and whatever you decide, just make sure its the best choice for YOU. And no need to comment

For the rest of you, I leave this recommendation… WATCH REVENGE!!

Peace out playas, and always remember, don’t be haters – never be haters.

Adjusting your approach in life

Hey all!! So the other day I finally decided I’m going to sell one of my houses. Why? Well besides the fact I don’t make 100k plus as a salary, I really thought about it the other day and I realised something.

In my life, and I’m sure you all do the same, we set goals for ourselves. Usually we will aim high because we believe the payoff in the end will be worth the initial suffering we endure. A popular goal is going to the gym and getting “fit”. I have a few chick friends who tell me “I wanna lose 5kg” or whatever the case is.

Now I do believe some people get “losing weight” and “getting fit” confused. They will see exercise and say “No, I’d rather just starve, then I’ll look hot!” Well no.. what I say is endure the pain, do the exercise. Mainly cause I’ve done the whole lose weight before via starvation.

Some of you might know I had some martial arts ground fighting thingy tournament… I think a year and a half ago? I had to lose 5kg (keeping in mind I was already quite skinny), but instead of jogging extensively and keeping up with my exercises, I reduced both my eating and exercising. The result was I felt terrible. Absolutely terrible. I lost the 5kg, rocked up to the tournament and got tapped out (or beaten in other words) within 2 minutes. I wish I could blame the loss in weight, but I think it was more the lack of skill? Either way, the fact I was starving was DEFINITELY a contributing factor. Basically I had an aim, and took the easier approach which turned out to be the wrong approach.

My point is losing weight via starvation won’t only make you feel terrible, but you’ll still be a little flabby, you wont get the figure you want & it wont be permanent. However if you jog and tone up, you may keep your 5kg, or even gain a few kg, but you’ll look WAY hotter. What I’m trying to say is by DEFINING your goal appropriately, you’ll find a more suitable approach.

(As a side note, remember muscles burn calories just by sitting there. TONED MUSCLES EQUALS FAST METABOLISM. They are LITERALLY jogging for you just by being there, so as long as you maintain muscle, you wont need to jog as hard. AMAZING!!!)

Anyway the reason I bring up this delightful story, is the fact that sometimes we will WANT things, but then find out to reach our goal, it’s not only the goal itself but the APPROACH or plan to reach the goal that needs to be defined properly. For example there is a difference between LOSING weight and getting FIT; both are different approaches yet equal the same result – looking hot. But there is difference in not only difficulty, but also how you feel and how sustainable it is to starve yourself. Unfortunately quick fixes usually don’t work. And the same can be said about my finances.

I originally bought the second investment property wanting a quick fix. I thought “Well I’m going to buy a second house anyway some time down the track, might as well buy it right now!” The problem is it is not sustainable for me, where the benefit of POSSIBLY making money is outweighed on my strict budget and the sad feeling the swells in my numb head when I see $1300 eaten up by interest and expenses alone each month. Yikes! LOL..

What I’m getting at is that in life you have goals, and although your ultimate goals may not change (eg. For me is having a 50k cash flow from investments),  the APPROACH may very well change. And that really goes with everything in life; even relationships. You may sit there and try to find the most amazing earth-shattering partner in the world in every aspect (looks, personality, humour, etc). That is until you realise life isn’t a movie; when you finally stop trying to make your life imitate movies and you realise what you NEED and what you WANT may be two separate things. Suddenly your approach to relationships changes, and call it what you will but for me it really is maturing. My previous approach was combining my previous relationships (girlfriends, casual flings  or otherwise) and making a Frankenstein of an “ideal” partner. A little unrealistic? I think so.

You see your goals won’t usually change. But that doesn’t mean your approach has to stay the same. The most successful people out there are constantly improving their approach. It is ALREADY April 2012, but I can safely say that one of the themes for this year going to be adjusting my approach to my goals. Because sometimes, what may have been a good approach several years ago, is unrealistic or inefficient now.

In short, when you think about your goals for this year, not only look at the goals, but the APPROACH itself - are you going about it in the right way? Are there ways to make it more efficient or more sustainable? Things you can do to reach your goal faster? And don’t be stubborn in your approach! This doesn’t relate to just finances  or fitness as I said before, but anything… even… sex… I MEAN relationships >.<

ANYWAY thanks for reading yo  Below is the song of the week, in celebration of me reducing my clubbing I’ve included the song “Act your age”.

Also you’ll find the preview for American Reunion, which I found quite delightful to watch – FOUR stars

And finally hot asian girl of the week. You can never go wrong with a hot asian girl… never. One of the certainties of my life anyway, “Can’t go wrong with a hot asian chick.” Believe that. That and don’t be haters. NEVER be haters!

PEACEEE!!!

Point Form Blog – with videos and sh*t

Story Talk

Walked into Bubble-Cup in Footscray the other day ordering my “Taro milk tea with pearls”. Waiting for my drink, this school kid walked in. With full on dyed hair and fkin jewellery and sh*t hanging like he was some character in an asian movie that I would watch and aspire to be, only to realise that I wasn’t THAT asian. I was so intrigued, I wanted to ask him what his character background was.

Minutes later, I noticed two school-girls also walk in, of which I noticed one of them check me out. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m alright looking, but that day I fully had my glasses on, no product in my hair, unshaven, and my baggy jeans with a cardigan on - which by definition doesn’t make any fashion sense. (The fact that I know this, and still wear it to work doesn’t make sense to me either, but whatever).

But yeah, school-girls be trippin these days. Suddenly I felt so cool. With my dorky glasses and my misplaced fashion sense. Fk yeah, end story.

I tried to find a clip that related to this story. Then I found this. Totally unrelated. But I just couldn’t get past how lovely and down to earth she is. And the dog in the background is my favourite. You can tell he aint a fan… Don’t get me started on her singing and how she doesn’t know the lyrics…

Arrogance talk

When I wanna feel like Will Huting, from the hit movie “Good Will Hunting”, I simply play chess. When I come across an opponent who is well and truly amateur to myself, I feel as frustrated as Matt Damon in the below clip;

Movie Talk

21 Jump Street – Have your expectations within the realm of possibility, and you will be in for a treat. Below is an example of its awesomeness. Best movie I seen in a while. Five Stars

Music Talk - And I LOVE this song Lego House by Ed Sheeran… you know I thought that Harry Potter guy (Ron) sang the song… until I realised he was just in the filmclip!!! HAHA… I’m so stupid. Enjoy… and don’t be haters… otherwise you’ll make baby Jesus cry… and no one makes baby jesus cry… not even Buddha.

Hot asian chick Talk

Below is a clip of a hot asian chick punking her boyfriend. It’s funny cause it doesn’t look fake at all. HAHA…

 

And here is the hot asian girl of the week. She might be filo, but even though I don’t like filo’s, for her I’d do the honourable and non-racist thing – and change. God bless America, why? Cause I can say whatever right now and you are still gonna check out this chick. Fuck. Yeah.

How to fall in love, no seriously…

So I guess something that has been on my mind as of recent (besides the extensive time I’ve been playing WoW) is the concept or the idea of LOVE. Cause let’s face it, as much as we’d like to say otherwise and put up a sense of comforting bravado, we all WANT love. The problem is how do we FIND love when there are so many definitions of love?

If we think of all the movies out there, they are all very similar points in each. Guy meets girl and can’t get enough of girl. Girl lovessss guy. But something gets in the way. Whether its war-torn families (Romeo and Juliet), girl gets brain damage and can’t remember being in love with you (The Vow – sh!t movie by the way), living in different dimensions (The Lakehouse), girl is retarded in the head due to her ex dying and the guy just happens to look like him (My Sassy Girl), girl’s unyielding belief in destiny that boarders on stupidity (Serendipity), girl is a star (Stardust).

EVEN movies that aren’t even romantic movies, but have a romantic element such as; guy is stuck on a plane filled with convicts and he needs to kill them all before he can be with his wife (Con Air), girl is a glorified prostitute (Pretty Woman OR Firefly/Serenity), government wants to kill your husband cause he is a douche (Enemy of the State), your wife is a head figure of the human rebellion against the computers, where you happen to be the “chosen one” who is destined to free your people from this enslavement (The Matrix), or your wife is dead and you are old (Up).

In ANY case, all this conflict makes for good movies but lets face it, it is very difficult to really relate to any of these movies. Yet despite how unrealistic or unreliable these characters may be, we are left with a subconscious perception on what LOVE is. In each of these movies, there is no doubt that the girl IS the girl for them. None at all. Really from all these movies, if you take away the conflict, they would live happily ever after. What this leaves us with is the impression is that once we find THAT partner, it’s done. That person is the one. But oh if only it were only that easy.

I’ll asked one of my friends who has a partner, what they think LOVE is and she  responded by saying “You just know.” Well let me tell you, I thought I knew several times in the past year, and oh was I wrong. Dreadfully wrong. So wrong. Next level wrong. On all occasions.

You see the initial phase of attraction is temporary at best. The worst thing is that is BLINDS you from the facts of the relationship. The girl could be a murderous hooker who can transform into a car, it doesn’t matter cause during that initial PHASE, our subconscious teachings from movies kick in and tell us ANYTHING is possible, and that this little obstacle (the fact that she is a murderous hooker who can transform into a car) is but a mere obstacle that can be overcome through the power of “LOVE“.

Now OBVIOUSLY I am being HEAVILY sarcastic with this example, but what I’m attempting to get across is that infatuation phase is a blinding phase. Why is this bad? What if I don’t want to date a murderous hooker? I mean, I usually wouldn’t date a murderous hooker. What’s changed? Its infatuation that has fked me over. Clearly dating a murderous hooker is not a good idea. Now you may say “well if you are willing to date a murderous hooker who can some how transform into a car, then it must be REAL love.” But I beg to differ. I must be a real retard if I’m willing to do that.

Is it all really out of “love” or is it more in the name of sex and my unyielding sexual desires?

Another of my friends told me she thinks that love is different between guys and girls. She states that when a guy falls for a girl, the initial phase is an indication of the “MOST” the guy will ever like you. So for example, if he falls for the girl, that is a good thing. However if he just mildly “likes” the girl, this is bad because the guy will then never be capable of more than just “liking” the girl.

However for the girl, it is the complete opposite where she says that the girl can mildly like the guy initially. The difference is that in time, her love for him will intensify the more time she spends time with him. This reasoning acts to explain why it is so difficult to hang out with a girl at times – because girls are usually scared to get too attached as she may overly fall for you. That being said also, that is also why the girl should NEVER like the guy more initially, because these feelings will intensify even more, and she will turn into a murderous hooker who wants to KILL you by running you over (as her intensified feelings have given her the ability of magically transform into a car).

But again, I look at this and fault it. First off, I think a lot of guys out there will agree with me when I say “Friend Zone 101″. Straight up. Secondly I have progressively fallen deeper for girls. I’ve also found my feelings fade with time and not come back. So again there goes that theory.

You see at the end of the day, the worse thing about “Love” or falling in love, is that, like most things in life, it is SELF-DEFINED. We all have our own perceptions of love and how it works. However I have broken it down into two main categories.

For some, love is that infatuation phase that despite the fact that it defies all logic and changes you into something you never thought you would be or ever WANT to be, you become it anyway despite everything. Because all that matters is being with and satisfying that person to their very core. You change as a person, and live for them (and hopefully them for you).

The other category is where people look at love as a partnership where you work together to achieve all the things you truly want in life. The love doesn’t change who you are, but helps you achieve what you TRULY want in life. Goals that you would be aspiring too EVEN if you weren’t in that relationship. You become buddies and homies, having each other’s backs, but in a more logical way. You may not lose your cool when you are with them, but you understand that in life there is more than falling in love. And living life the way YOU want to live it is more important than anything.

Can you have both? By definition, I do not think so. Because love or infatuation (more accurately) is like a drug in my opinion. It consumes you and leaves you with nothing but WANT for your partner. It leaves you immobilized and helpless. EVEN if she wants the EXACT same things you want (which is rare in itself), the infatuation (by definition) makes everything else secondary.

There are different variations of the above, but I think they all stem from either one of the above – but not both. A friend of mine, who is now married actually told me this. Obviously not in so many words, (and not in blog form), but essentially he told me “You got two types of girls. Girls who you control, or girls that control you. You can’t have both.” I have to admit I do agree.

I guess the question we are all left with is; Which love are we after? Again, it’s all self-defined. The good news about that is at least you can’t get it wrong!

Thanks all for reading, and allow me to leave you with some wise words a beautiful girl once told me…

“A relationship isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s fken hard work. Once you realise that then you’ll see what a mistake you’re making.”

Don’t be haters, never be haters <3

ASIAN GIRL OF THE WEEK - Orange, yummo

SONG OF THE WEEK - US AGAINST THE WORLD

I actually change the song. This song is way more awesome an epic… kinda like me! HAHA… no seriously.

Enjoy <3

Be brave and shave… BITCH!! The donation idea

So the other day I was chillin like a villain on my computer, playing a bit of WORLD OF WARCRAFT as I do on a Thursday night after recovering from surgery earlier that day. Suddenly I get a FB chat message. Usually I don’t have chat on, so it kind of caught me by surprise – ie. Thought it was some hot asian chick.

I alt-tab to see one of my friend’s CHAO message me (So I guess it was a hot asian chick :P ) Anyway, opening the message it read “Ahem… still waiting” followed by a link for the LEUKAEMIA FOUNDATION. Now although me and Chao don’t talk as much as I’d like to, she did do me a huge favour a few weeks ago (which was she succeeded in NOT giving out my number to someone who wanted to kill me. And as much as you would think that would be common sense, you would be surprised! *kicks dirt*)

In any case, despite me being a general tight ass I did donate. So I thought in addition to that, I would do what I can, which isn’t much since I don’t really have that many readers. But I thought I would plug in her cause, because it really is something worth supporting. I hope you guys can spare $5 or something… ANYTHING! Below you will find her link, so show her some love if you can. Check out the chick who is shaving her hair! Screw that! I wouldn’t shave my hair… I’m just TOO vain!!!

http://my.leukaemiafoundation.org.au/chaoness

Now guys,as you can tell, I rarely EVER donate. I know, it is very tight ass of me, but yes. I just don’t. Which got me thinking where this all stems from. You see, being someone who usually budgets, I find it very difficult to donate because I’m all about long term. Not short term. What I mean by that is that SURE, I may donate today, and sure it may do SOME good, but ultimately in the long run, the benefits fade. Which leads me to the foundation I was looking into setting up. I know, “Prince Playa’s foundation for the game-challenged” may not be the best idea, but hear me out!

What I actually wanted to set up, combining my knowledge of taxation and shares with my long-term outlook on life is commonly referred to as; well it doesn’t really exist. The closest thing I could find that represents this is a Public Ancillary Fund, but it’s a little different. Allow me to explain.

Now as explained above, the problem with most donations is that they are once off payments, which is great for short term, but doesn’t really provide any long term source of funds. What this proposal is more for the long term disburment of the funds in both a tax effective and longer term perspective.

Here is a step by step for you.

1. Basically donations would be given by the public, together with their name and email address.

2. These donations would be invested, intially in a savings account, but eventually blue chip shares on the Australian stock exchange.

3. Each year, the return from the pooled funds (whether it is interest from a bank account or dividends) will be distributed to charities.

4. There will be intially say four charities you can donate to, and each person who has donated will be asked to nominate one charity they wish their reinvested funds put into.

5. Every year, you will get a tax receipt for where the funds have been given. So for example, lets say you donated $100. That year, the interest was 5%. You nominated the 5% to be distributed to the Leukaemia Foundation. The $5 your $100 makes goes towards the Leukaemia Foundation – and you get a tax deduction receipt for $5.

6. The good thing about this vehicle is as the share price goes up, so does the dividend. So say in 5 years, instead of getting $5, your $100 returns you with $10. You get a tax receipt for $10, and you are ALSO donating more to your cause.

7. And obviously when the fund ceases (or if you pass away), your contribution is then sold at market value and given to the charity you have nominated.

The good thing about this, is lets say 10 years ago you donated $100. And you bought CBA shares at $10 each. So you have ten shares. If you were to die today, and those shares are sold at todays market value, you would end up donating $500 in additon to the $5 you have been donating over the past 10 years (total of $550… as opposed to donating just a once off payment of $100.

Now sure, you may be thinking “but I wanna just donate now” and that is fair enough, but this is more a long term perspective of donating for those who want to donate with the longer term in mind. It could be donating to the local school for example who constantly need a stream of funds.

For me this CONCEPT is both unique and would be great. But I don’t know if people would really like it. It may be a little complex, as I tend to overcomplicate things, so let me know what you think via comments, etc. It is a little project of mine that I’ve been thinking about for a few years now, and any feeback would be greatly appreciated (even private message me if you’re shy to comment! )

Peace out homies, and remember don’t be haters…. NEVER BE HATERS!!!

And again, please donate to Chao! Even if its $2, every dollar counts!

http://my.leukaemiafoundation.org.au/chaoness

On a totally unrelated, yet welcomed note, here is my GIRLFRIEND OF THE WEEK… which doesnt make sense as this is my 3rd post in the last week.. but what ever. Her name is Serena Sophia, and apparently she is “HOT” for Charity according to our lovely writers at FHM… She makes me wanna donate so badly and become a better person… if you know what I mean!! LOL…

And song of the ”week” goes to the SIMPSONS… Just a classic song!! Enjoy, and give a little my hot hot readers!! <3

Why I’m checking into the hospital tomorrow? Last Blog?

Cause I am too awesome.

The end.

JOKES… hey guys, wats up! Just thought I’d write a little blog as to why I’m getting checked into the hospital tomorrow… and score some free views while I’m at it! If only I got paid for each view… /sadfaceee…

ANYWAY.. reason why is I’m getting a hernia removed from my belly button. Wanna know what a hernia is? Its called Google. But basically, it is a pretty standard operation.. nothing serious… although I will be out for about 1 to 2 weeks… and I do need to stay overnight. That being said, today I wanted to talk about something not a lot of people WANT or DO talk about, which is DEATH.

Now I think if I were to somehow die from this operation, it would be quite ironic! But the good news is I have already written a “shout out” blog telling people how much I love them, so for my funeral, seriously, just print out one of those and it’ll be like me speaking AT the funeral!! LOL…. why I laugh?

But on a more serious note, I think we as people should talk about death a little more. Although admittedly, it is quite difficult to bring it up in conversation. For example check out this quick script I wrote as an example of how a DEATH conversation would go down with my close friends;

Daniel – Hey Trung, Alfie… if I died… I just wanna let you know that you guys are one of my closest friends. There are probably no other guy friends I hold closer.

Trung – Fuck you man, I’m still not over you not coming Suzuki Night market with me and Alfie… your BOYS… the ones  you supposedly call your ”closest friends”.

Alfie – ***Something about A-league soccer***

Daniel – Fuck man.. you’re worse than a girl. Why can’t you be like how you are to me with a GIRL (which is a possessive/sensitive girly man), and be a dickhead/non committing wanker to ME?! You got the combination all wrong!!

Trung – Its cause I love you okay, f**k man. I said it.

Alfie – ***Soccer lingo*** And then Archie scored!!!!

The End.

That little out-take is what is probably going to happen the next time we all meet up. I swear to God, that is no exaggeration. It’s ridiculous how gay and unnecessarily soccer related our conversations can get. But its all good, cause what brings us together is how we hang sh*t on how insecure my cousin, G is.

Anywayyyy… oh yes, I was talking about death.

I think society these days have the impression that by talking about death you jinx yourself. Well let me tell you, if that were TRUE, there would be substantially LESS people dead and a lot more people walking around who SHOULDNT be alive.. LOL… For me, I think it is good to remind ourselves of our own mortality, cause it reminds us how precious our lives REALLY are.

It is too easy, especially these days, to squander them on nights out partying and having no real goals or aspirations. And easy to “not find the time” to do anything. Especially telling people who we do LOVE that we do in fact LOVE them.

So I thought today, seeing as this MAY be my last blog (cause who knows with surgery and all tomorrow), I would tell you all how much YOU guys, the reader of my blogs, mean to me. Even though there is probably like… what… 20 people who read?

You see for me, as much as I dream about being a famous writer, whether it be a blog, novel or otherwise, it is NOT something I do for money. Like my martial arts, I do it because despite how much it pains me at times, I absolutely love it. It’s that easy. If I could write the most AMAZING blogs, and help one or two people out there, and keep the rest amused and entertained (including myself), then my work is done.

I don’t think people realise, but I’ve had blogs that take me 2 hours to write, but then another 3 hours to edit!! Now obviously I’m preoccupied while editing, but still to read over the same blog at least 10 times (keeping in mind some of them are 2,000 words), just to make sure the jokes come out right and the messages come out clear… to get paid NOTHING… You cannot say I do it for the money. Let me tell you what it’s for.

Sometimes I will go back and read a blog. I remember I read one, and I just couldn’t stop laughing… I just lost myself. Everything came out as I intended it and it was just an all round good read. Would have been the crying series blog most likely – I really loved that one.

And I mean that sort of feeling of achievement doesn’t only make you feel good, but it serves as an accomplishment, and I’m not talking about the blog itself only, but more that moment in life that I’m writing about! To not only overcome the adversity at a particular point in time, but to be able to write about it, be open about it, and share it with you guys. Even if only FIVE people read it, that’s still enough.

So I do want to thank all of you. I know there are some out there that read it, who I may not know personally, or who know me and stalk me for whatever reason… or maybe you’re a random guy, looking for pics of girls and found me cause of those hot chicks I post on every blog… EITHER way, I do thank you. Cause every view, comment and like that I receive really does go a long way.

In short, I want to leave you with one final thing. In order to do what you love, you must love what you do. Whatever it is. Do it with a passion that rivals the likes of the greats out there. Do it with a passion that inspires!

When I jog and do chin ups, I don’t think about how tired I am… I think about what the local cricket team are thinking while I run past them in the POURING rain… I think about how much these guys are pussies and how I could systematically take each one out if I have to. Not only that, I think about how insane I am. And that inspires me, cause it is insanity that takes you to the next level – in what ever you do. To do extraordinary things, your ACTIONS need to be extraordinary.

I love writing blogs, and I’m very passionate about it, but you guys and girls who give me the inspiration I need when I’m sitting here and I don’t know what to say. When all I want to do is go on YouTube or stalk people on Facebook - It is your VIEWS and LIKES and COMMENTS that inspire me. So thank you. With everything I have, I really do thank you.

Love you all, and don’t be haters - nay – NEVER BE HATERS!!!!!

PEACE!!!!

GIRLFRIEND OF THE WEEK!!! I know fellas (and the occasional lady), best part of the blog. With the whole operation going down tomorrow at hospital, I thought this picture was more than appropriate. And you would be surprised how difficult it is to Google “Asian Nurse” and find a HOT girl with her top ON!! pleasantly surprised albeit Her name is Sharon… and she goes down… to Geelong to study Nursing.

What? Geezzz… you guys are TOO dirty!! LOL…

SONG OF THE WEEK is by Lloyd – You II – dedicated to Maggie! Why? Cause she keeps cancelling on me! LOL.. More so cause she can dedicate this song to her BOY! Naww… <3

Anyway I absolutely fell in LOVE with this song when I heard it. These days I fall for songs, not girls you see! LOL… I actually spent a whole day at work with this song on repeat. Maybe I’m crazy? HEHE… It kind of makes me feel sad… sad that I may NEVER find someone I can sing this song to again. But at the same time, it makes me feel happy knowing that I have felt like this over a number of girls in past and that it does in fact exist!

I believe the saying is “Better to have love and lost, then to never have loved at all?” Love and lost baby, I’m ALL about love and lost. Enjoy!

You can be a MILLIONAIRE*

ACTIONS are one of the most empowering things we as people can accomplish. You see a lot of people out there KNOW what to do in life. They KNOW they need to go to work. They KNOW they need to exercise and eat right. And they KNOW they should save their money. We all know these things. The question is do we DO them?

I hear a lot of people say “I wanna be a millionaire.” But those same people don’t have a plan. So how do you truly want to be a millionaire? You clearly don’t. Millionaire’s, from my experience, tend to KEEP their millions. So I think it is safe to assume if you don’t have a plan to become a millionaire, you will not achieve it.

I am SET on becoming a millionaire. And I know I will get there. You may ask me how do I KNOW this. Its pretty simple – its cause I got a plan and I got a drive and take the necessary actions to achieve it. Now you may laugh at it, or don’t believe it and think its wishful thinking with the GFC and all. But I honestly BELIEVE it. With every fibre of my body, nothing can shake that. My cousin, GMC, believes he will be a rapper. Doesn’t matter how much I tell him he should buy a house, for him “MAKING IT” is something he believes with every fibre of his being. There is no other option. It’s either make it or die trying. Now what he is doing is something I could never do, but the important thing about these two examples is that there is an unshakeable BELIEF structure in place. And I think that in itself is something people can admire.

The truth is, I don’t even wanna live a fancy lifestyle. What I want is to be able to have is the freedom to follow my passions. And I know to truly do that, I need money. I don’t care for a fancy car. I would definitely travel everywhere around the world. I can’t wait to fill my passport with stamps. I’m going to be just like Jason BOURNE, without the whole super CIA spy bit. I’m going to go shopping and not have money be an issue. Like the other day, get this, I went to Target and was arguing with myself whether I should buy a $17.50 leather box for my files. Can you believe that? Fkkkk…. if it was me 3 months ago, I would have bought three.

Now you may say, well I can’t live like that. I can’t live my life on a budget. But my goal to become a millionaire is a little wishful considering my pay, so I need to adjust my spending to slightly more “RETARDED” level. Truth be told, as much as it sucks stopping yourself from buying things, deep down, it makes me feel good. I swear to God, my thrills in life these days have come down to saving money! You know I’m getting old when I say shit like that, but its true!

Now the point is that we as people DEMAND things we want in life, but we don’t DEMAND the necessary actions from ourselves to achieve it. We don’t look at the hard work and the risks that were taken by others to achieve those AMAZING results. That is what life is. You take an action, you get a result, you change your action accordingly to get a better result, and repeat until you get the result you want. Guess the news. If you aren’t getting any closer to becoming a millionaire, it’s probably because the actions you are taking are the WRONG ones IF being a millionaire is TRULY what you want.

Look, it does pain me to not be able to spend money. But at the end of the day, I believe in a goal that is greater than today, or tomorrow, or the whole week or fortnight. I believe in a goal that is even greater than a years worth of spending. And I mean you may just look at this blog and say, GOD Daniel is just so arrogant. Thinks he is going to become a millionaire. HOPE HE DOESNT! HOPE HE FAILS! And if you say that, I love you for it. Because it is that, which helps drive me!

What I’m trying to get across is that YOU can achieve things if you have the right PLAN in place backed up with the correct ACTION. Imagine this, you tell yourself that in 10 years, you will become a millionaire. And you believe this and do whatever it takes to get there. How awesome does it feel? ITS THE BEST! Look at you - thinking about what you are going to do with the money… the trips you’ll take. See the good news is you CAN get there! Its FREAKIN ACHIEVABLE!! My old maths teacher bought his first house at 18. He only had a 5% deposit which for that he was 5k short on, so he freakin took a cash advance on his credit card. Ten years later he had a huge property portfolio worth millions and he even did kickboxing and THREATENED one of my friends cause he was being a dickhead!!… and he is a freaking school teacher! Just amazing.

Now look, I ain’t selling houses. What I’m trying to sell across is a CONCEPT, which is more valuable. This can relate to anything, not just money, but I’m using money as an example because everyone can relate to it (and as much as you guys appreciate my kung fu stories I’m sure, I think this is a welcomed change).

The thing is you’ll probably call me up and I will literally tell you step by step what you need to do to INVEST and the risks involved also. The change in lifestyle, etc… and by the end of it, you’ll be thinking “OH fk it, I’ll let future me worry about that adult stuff”.

That’s all good. But just know that its your choice to not become a millionaire. OR your choice to HOPE for another way on becoming a millionaire. But just don’t complain in 10 years when you still own nothing. And don’t hate. I think these days people hate so much. I mean lets face it, I should know that cause three separate guys have wanted to smash my face in the past year, so I do know a little about ye’ old “HATE“. But why hate? Be inspired by successful people is what I say! I look up to people who have investment portfolios. Its awesome. I’m totally jealous, but its LOVE-JEALOUSY. Not bitter, the world hates me cause I’m ASIAN-JEALOUSY.

Now fair enough, if the person is being a fk head, different story. And I don’t know, for what ever reason, you may get UPSET at this blog. But I’m just telling you how it is. I’m forcing you to REALISE something that is much then GREATER than today. And that it is your ACTIONS that dictate where you go, not your INTENTIONS. I am NOT bagging you as a person, I’m criticising your actions or lack there of (if it so does apply to you). And YOU should criticize them too. Cause if you don’t, who will? I criticize my actions CONSTANTLY!!! Look if I tell you “You can spend whatever you want and in ten years you’ll be a millionaire” You’ll probably love that blog…. that is until 10 years later when you are NOT a millionaire.

The real concept of this blog is getting across being critical of your actions and aware that they don’t just impact you NOW, they impact you for the rest of your life. It has an exponential effect. I’m just using money as an example, that if you spend lots now, you are a lot less likely to be capable of achieving that million. And look, you may not want a million… but even to aspire to own a house - we all have our OWN tailor-made goals. You may want to travel? You may want to take up dancing? You may want to meet an incredible person who sweeps you off your feet? You may want to be able to eat Yum cha every weekend? You may want to own your own restaurant or business? You may want to rule the world? I don’t know, but again I’m JUST using the goal of being a MILLIONAIRE as an example because it’s what I am personally aspiring too. And I mean if you saw my loan balance, you would probably faint. Actually whenever I have trouble sleeping, I just look at how much I owe both the bank and my parents, and I clonk out.

But what ever you do, do not hate. I’m not bitter about not being as good at BRUCE LEE. Why? Because I know what the guy had to do to get that good. The guy was fkin insane. Straight up. Who jogs in desert boots for 5 miles? Who does one arm chin ups? Who gets out of a car in peak hour to beat someone up? Who punches you in the face if you don’t call him Sifu? Who redefines Asians to the point where I spent most of my time at school getting out of fights PRETENDING I did Kung fu? Who presents a concept on martial arts that is so beyond his times, that even now people are training the wrong thing? Who can hold an elevated V position for 45 minutes? The guy was fkin nuts. No shit he become that good. People out there don’t even know the half of it too. People think UFC is the ultimate. I don’t know about you, but I never seen anyone in the UFC pull out a BLADE. Or get a FRIEND to jump in. Or have to PROTECT the girl they are with while trying to knock the other guy out. I have never seen anyone BITE in the UFC, or break fingers, or headbutt, or even DIE in the UFC. I’m sorry, but it isn’t “ultimate”. Ultimate is on the street where the fight goes for less than 10 seconds, and someone dies. They should call it the IFC – Intermediate Fighting Championship. Don’t get me wrong, I love watching an occasional UFC fight. But it does get boring and I’d much rather watch boxing. Anyway, what was I talking about? (And I was so close to finishing a blog without talking about martial arts!)

In summary, write a PLAN and take ACTION to achieve your goal… WHATEVER it is!! Acknowledge where you are going, and if you do not like it, CHANGE IT! If you love where you are going, ACKNOWLEDGE THAT and get excited. Just don’t go through life and regret. Personally, I want you to become a millionaire so I have someone to go travelling with in 10 years!! HAHA..

But no, seriously, look at your life and really take a look at what you want to achieve – it doesn’t have to be money. In life its easy to just look at the result and WANT things, but do nothing about it. It is a totally different, and much more empowering and rewarding thing to be on the path to achieving it. Cause all this, right now, it is temporary. For ME, the night out… the drinking… it’s all temporary. You don’t get to keep those moments forever. Nights out are awesome, but in moderation. But really clubbing every weekend? Meh.. I’M over it. Give me BANK.

Don’t be haters children… never be haters…

Love you all for reading. Like love love…

Now for my favourite part of the blog.. the PICTURE OF MY GIRLFRIEND OF THE WEEK!!! PS. You don’t wanna type on “asian girl money” into google… nothing but PORN PORN PORN!! Needless to say I was quite offended.

Actually yesterday I saw my good friend DEB who lured me into a “quick stop into a sunglass store” which drained the next 2 hours of my life looking at glasses that quite frankly all looked the same. Thanks Deb. And thanks for lashing me in front of the hobo when I needed you the most. LOLL… Any who, here is a pic of my girl of the week. And Deb, get these glasses. <3 Something about them makes them look sooo hot…. HEHE.. OMG I LOVE THIS CHICK!!!

And song of the week goes to Kanye and JayZ. Niggas in Paris. Dedicated to KATHY who finally comes back tomorrow after being away for 2 months!!! MISS YOU!! ITS ABOUT TIME YOU CAME BACK!! Still cut at you for not acknowledging my shout out, but I’ll get over it. LOL… Enjoy Bella! <3